Life has tested me over and over again. I have been in situations that have tested my resilience and had I been put through similar tests earlier on in my life, I would most definitely not have been able to handle it. I guess it’s true that God will never give you anything you cannot handle. Through the tough times, I remained positive and felt really blessed to be able to immediately change my attitude to positivity despite the situation.
My first step is simply making peace with the fact that life is never going to go exactly the way I want it to. There will be tough times, the change will take place around me, and sometimes I will be dragged out of my comfort zone. Expecting this to happen allows me to prepare for it and gives me the ability to take action when required. I have faith in my ability to control my attitude and whenever I sense some negatively about a situation, I visualize everything working out perfectly and because I do this, everything generally does work out perfectly. One of my daily rituals assists me with this. Each morning, I affirm that nothing is impossible and everything will work out perfectly for me.
I learned that it is not what happens to me that matters, but how I respond that makes all the difference. I am in control of my emotions and under no circumstances do I blame circumstances or people for how I react. I cannot change other people, I can only change myself, and that is and will always be my main priority in life, since my life will only change for the better when I change.
The next step, I learned from a wise, old man. He said that in order to maintain a positive attitude, you must anchor your heart to your mind. I was intrigued and asked how? He then showed me a form of meditation that anchored my heart to my mind. It can be done as follows:
- Breathe in through your nose until you feel the air in your stomach.
- Hold the breath for 5 seconds, then breathe out through your nose.
- Do this very slowly while focusing all of your attention on your heart. Continue the process until you feel calm and blissful.
I began by doing this for 1 minute, and then 2 minutes, and slowly, I began to do it for 10 minutes a day. This process always brings me an amazing sensation of calmness and peace.
When I think about maintaining a positive attitude, I always think about applying the concept of love conquers all to every aspect of my life. I intend to apply this concept to my life, as love is the strongest and most powerful emotion that can conquer all. God has created me with perfect LOVE and I affirm this each day and radiate love everywhere I go. And in return, I receive unconditional love from God.
When I am in a stressful situation, I find time to pause by sitting down, closing my eyes, putting my hands on my lap, and feeling my entire body slowly sinking to the ground. It is a process of grounding myself before I continue with my day. I am, then, able to slow down, which enables me to go faster and get things done.
Exercise is another ritual. The positive chemicals that exercise releases into my body give me an amazing feeling. When you are lazy to exercise or don’t have time to go to gym, here is an amazing breathing technique that can help you lose belly fat and tighten up your core. It is so simple and all it takes is 5 minutes a day.
- Begin by breathing in deeply through your nose, breathe out through your mouth for the same amount of time it took to breathe in.
- Tighten up your stomach and continue to breathe out until you can no longer do so. It is important to tighten your stomach muscles and breathe out as much air as possible. Repeat this process for 5 minutes.
Another ritual that I intend to do daily is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day, I will write down something I am grateful for. Another technique I found that helps to maintain a positive attitude is overloading my brain with positivity. I read a lot and listen to audiobooks in my car. Online videos, positive quotes, whatever I find inspiring, I absorb. I allow the powerful words to enter my mind and seep into my subconscious and the rest of my body. It is extremely therapeutic.
When I struggle to change my emotions to be more positive, I rely on a breathing technique that works every time. I inhale deeply and exhale completely; I do this at least 20 times and try to take in as much oxygen as possible. This intense breathing exercise works wonders for me. Go ahead and try it yourself.